Parents Meeting Dec 2018 – Notes below
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The importance of character.
What were your answers to the BBQ question?
Kitrina Douglas’s story https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/volume-29/january-2016/one-one-kitrina-douglas
Arthur Conan Doyle parents quote – “I have frequently gained my first real insight into the character of the parents by studying their children.” From the book ‘The adventure of the copper beeches’
“Athletes bring to the high-performance environment the models that they’ve learnt at home.” Dr Karl Steptoe http://www.ncsem.org.uk/parentsinsport/
All blacks- book Legacy By James Kerr.
Sir Alex Fergusson’s grit quote from his book-Leading
We all paren
t different paths- http://www2.oberlin.edu/faculty/ndarling/lab/psychbull.pdf
Who is Richard Shorter– https://non-perfectdad.co.uk/about-me/
The Challenges of Being a sporting Parent
• Know you own expectations.
• Know your own ‘triggers’.
• Decide how you are going to deal with conflict.
• Have some “healthy” off buttons!
• Understand you are not in control
• Focus on what is really important to you.
Character focused Journeys 
- Express pride/love before game.
Brene Brown permission slips https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NY6hZf6kI4g
- Ask the question
What do you want me to do for you on game day/ training day? (Exam day, interview day, new partner day Etc)
https://thecpsu.org.uk/download/media/2501/cpsu_parenting-cheat-sheet.pdf
- Sit with pain
https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/personal-reflections-coping-and-loss
- Seek progress – Growth mindset Carol Dweck
www.non-perfectdad.co.uk/the-3-wrong-things-to-say-in-the-post-match-sports-journey-after-a-loss
Character focus louder than results focus 
- Support during ups and downs
- Offers a way forward
- Helps with sibling rivalry
- Provides more space for creativity/ problem solving
- Long-term will lead to more winning!
- More fun!
www.non-perfectdad.co.uk/parents-stop-focusing-on-tries-and-goals-my-rugby-world-article