Lincoln Parents Meeting September 2019
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Session Notes.
The importance of character.
What were your answers to the BBQ question?
Kitrina Douglas’s story https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/volume-29/january-2016/one-one-kitrina-douglas
Arthur Conan Doyle parents quote – “I have frequently gained my first real insight into the character of the parents by studying their children.” From the book ‘The adventure of the copper beeches’
“Athletes bring to the high-performance environment the models that they’ve learnt at home.” Dr Karl Steptoe http://www.ncsem.org.uk/parentsinsport/
All blacks- book Legacy By James Kerr.
Sir Alex Fergusson’s grit quote from his book-Leading
Freddie Flintoff. listen to this podcast, ( just ignore Robbie’s foolishness!) https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05h6ztq
We all paren
t different paths- http://www2.oberlin.edu/faculty/ndarling/lab/psychbull.pdf
Who is Richard Shorter– https://non-perfectdad.co.uk/about-me/
Character focused Parenting
Collins & MacNamara- Talent Development- A practitioner’s Guide (Supers and Almost’s) Please do have a read of all the research here. http://clok.uclan.ac.uk/12969/
Character focused Journeys 
- Express pride/love before game.
Brene Brown permission slips https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NY6hZf6kI4g
- Ask the question
What do you want me to do for you on game day/ training day? (Exam day, interview day, new partner day Etc)
https://thecpsu.org.uk/download/media/2501/cpsu_parenting-cheat-sheet.pdf
- Sit with pain
https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/personal-reflections-coping-and-loss
- Seek progress – Growth mindset Carol Dweck
www.non-perfectdad.co.uk/the-3-wrong-things-to-say-in-the-post-match-sports-journey-after-a-loss
For those who didn’t have the opportunity to buy the book which will fuel your car journeys to building epic rugby character it can be found here: www.non-perfectdad.co.uk/books
Character focus louder than results focus 
- Support during ups and downs
- Offers a way forward
- Helps with sibling rivalry
- Provides more space for creativity/ problem solving
- Long-term will lead to more winning!
- More fun!
www.non-perfectdad.co.uk/parents-stop-focusing-on-tries-and-goals-my-rugby-world-article
