2016 has been another perfect year for the faultless Shorters.
Before we begin, it is worth pointing out that by merely reading this letter you will undoubtedly be inspired to follow our example of parental perfection. This is completely normal and does not necessarily imply any inadequacies in your own parenting.
The perfect birthday bash
January 2016 literally went off with a bang! For our son’s birthday, we raised the bar for in-house party entertainment in a way which could best be described as ‘not age appropriate’. A wayward outdoor firework mistook our dining room for the night sky and exploded under the table. Thankfully, and miraculously, no one was hurt, although everyone’s party bag subsequently came with a complimentary phobia of fireworks. Obviously, I blame the entire incident on a faulty firework. If I were not such a perfect dad, I would have had to graciously accept that, in situations such as these, some fault must be attributed to the guy with the lighter in his hand – namely me… but of course, being a perfect parent, I don’t have to!
Holidays are perfect learning opportunities
While having a lovely week in France, staying at a converted barn in Normandy, we solved the issue of keeping children educationally engaged whilst on holiday.
‘Kids, put the iPad down and look out of the window,’ led to this parenting breakthrough. Like many parents on long journeys, we often let the iPad parent our children so as to avoid the trauma of the inevitable and repetitive grilling of ‘how long?’ and ‘are we nearly there yet?’
But while driving through quiet and picturesque towns in rural Normandy, we insisted the kids look out of the window – only for us to pass two cows enthusiastically experiencing carnal knowledge of one another. This deeply amused our eldest, who with the unnecessarily over-the-top exuberance of a preteen boy, gave his sisters a detailed anatomical commentary of what was going on – replete with sound effects! This left my six-year-old daughter decidedly underwhelmed by any subsequent car journey that did not include copulating cattle.
Near perfect new school transition
Our son started secondary school in September and his calm management of this stressful change demonstrates the amazing perfect job we have done with him. However, it has not been an easy transition. A week or so beforehand, the nerves and sleepless nights set in. Worries about bus trips and how to find the toilets were the foremost causes for concern. Cries of ‘where’s the lunch box?’, ‘where’s the Oyster Card?’ and ‘is the right P.E. kit packed?!’ echoed throughout the house.
Thankfully, he quickly became aware of the anxious mess his parents (well, his dad) had found themselves in and helped us (ok, me!) successfully process the transition. Taking everything in his stride, he listened respectfully to our concerns and said all the right things, enabling his unstable parents to cope with his change to big-school. A clear example of the excellent empathy and counselling skills we have instilled him with.
As you probably know already, our business, Tender Shoots, is up and running – Alison is operating a very successful Forest School programme and I am offering private parental coaching. One of my key take away lessons from this experience has been that children often fail to realise just how perfect their parents are. ‘Dad, you are a rubbish parent, how can you be a parenting coach?’ has rung out around our house more than once in the last year, simply proving they don’t yet know how lucky they are… right…?!
Honest Weight Loss
Teaching children honesty is so important. My youngest daughter embraces filterless honesty by regularly observing that my bum is too big for our toilet seats! This kind of motivation from the children has meant that yet again this has been a year of dieting – and I think I have lost a total of over three stone! Regrettably, I have also put on around 2 1/2 stone… but at least I’m a few pounds better off than when I started.
Perfect Pet Care
Most parents will testify to the traumatic experience of allowing your child to have a small pet. However, I doubt many parents have provided as intimate care for their child’s rabbits as I have.
This year, we welcomed Len and Bruno into our home, our middle child’s beloved rabbits. Within a few months it was evident that they were fighting and had to be separated. I then embarked on a three-month rabbit conflict resolution program, aided by hours and hours of watching YouTube videos about how to support rabbits to get along with each other. All the advice seemed to suggest that getting the rabbits ‘done’ was the best way to resolve the conflict. After an insanely expensive operation, I’m pleased to say both rabbits came through the procedure neutered and relatively well.
Unfortunately, Len’s empty scrotum would not heal. To aid Len’s recovery the vet presented me with a tube of Manuka honey. I have never tasted this expensive condiment, but this was not for eating – rather the vet instructed me to spread the honey on the rabbit’s scrotum! And that twice-daily for a week! Sadly, Len is no longer with us. The combination of my soothing hands and expensive honey did in fact heal Len’s scrotum. but the many hours in rabbits’ couples’ therapy with me could not heal the emotional wounds between him and Bruno. Len has therefore moved on to pastures new, although I doubt they will offer him the intimate care he received in our household.
With such a busy, perfect family life, it’s a wonder I found time to write this!
May your 2017 be as memorable as our 2016.
Don’t try to be perfect, just be yourself…it’s far more fun!
God Bless, The Shorters
I have 20 years experience of working with families, helping parents raise children with the self-confidence and self-esteem to be a world changer is what I enjoy doing and turns out I am pretty good at.
I’m a dad of three ( all of whom can rap the first part of Ice Ice baby by Vanilla Ice), all three would say I am not a perfect dad but then who is… but I am a great at being me.